Monthly Archives: October 2011

If your celebrating Halloween today/tonight, have a safe and fun time!

Face painting & cookie decorating at the local garden centre.

This month I've chosen one of my favourite authors of all, E. Lynn Harris. Unfortunately he passed away in 2009 from heart disease at the age of 54, while promoting his latest book at the time, 'Basketball Jones'. When I heard about his passing I was truly devastated. Personally it's hard to find authors who's books are page turners. The kind where you know you should go to bed and when you look at the clock it's 3 am. E. Lynn Harris's books are often listed under gay men's fiction, not a choice category title as far as I'm concerned but people usually feel comfortable with categories. To me he was just an amazing story teller.

In 'And This Too Shall Pass' (1996, Doubleday) we meet Zurich Robinson an up and coming rookie football player coming to terms with his sexuality, in his own way and how it fits in with his budding career as a sports star. Zurich was an athlete his whole life, so he knows the pressure of fitting into that typical macho, overly sexual stereotype of the male athlete.  Can the public handle having an openly gay sports star? He also has to come to terms with the effect that it may have with his family and friends.

E. Lynn Harris like his other stories also touches on how religion can affect how they deal with their homosexuality. Can you believe in God, be spiritual and still be true to who you are? A question that people in real life deal with everyday.

Click here to see the video 'A Loving Tribute To E. Lynn Harris'.

If you are already an E. Lynn Harris fan, what are your favourite books from him? If not, go to your local library and borrow a few of his books.
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Note: Tomorrow, November 1st, will be my second attempt participating in the NaNoWriMo writing contest. Is anyone else participating? Is this your first attempt or have you participated before?

Song of the Day:A Nightmare On My Street (Single Version) - Will Smith: Greatest Hits  A Nightmare On My Street - Will Smith & DJ Jazzy Jeff, Greatest Hits, 2002, Sony Music Entertainment Inc. (Links may not work in all countries.)

Till next time,



Milk chocolate chip cookie. The last for a long time.

I think that I've touched on this subject before but I'm revisiting it again because that's what is coming to mind.

I feel that I'm on in an awkward place because I know where I want to go, what I need to do with this next portion of my life. As always (and many of you will attest to this) life always seems to be getting in my way, throwing obstacles or at the very least trying to make things as complicated as possible. Yes, that's the way I'm choosing to look at it today.

I have always thought and have experienced in the past, that the busier I am the more productive I am or would like to think so. Not so, this time around. I'm just feeling more overwhelmed, more stressed and if I not careful, see a burnout in the near future. But I can't stop because when your trying to build a career and keep it going there is no time to stop and take a break. So I need a plan.

Every once in a while cooking Sunday dinner. The more stressed I am the more I cook & bake. Yes, that's a dollop of ketchup.
  • Keep on schedule. Start at the same time. Have lunch at the same time. Have dinner at the same time. Finish for the day at the same time (or try to).
  • Get adequate sleep. Which for me is very difficult on any given day, or should I say night. Being overly tired just means I take longer to get work done, if any work at all.
  • Lists are beneficial for some. Productive for me. I write them and stick to them. It doesn't always mean that I get through the entire list. I feel a sense of accomplishment when I tick off the list. To see a completed list at the end of the day feels pretty great and is a relief.
  • Saying no when you truly do not have the time or the capability. When the person asking can do it for themselves or can wait for a more convenient time for you to assist them.
  • Asking for help. More people than we think are willing to help with reasonable requests. But remember not to take advantage or that goodwill will dry up pretty fast.
  • Take time for yourself. Whether it's going for a walk or for a run. Meditating, always a good one for me, although not done frequently as of late. Talking to a friend on the phone is always nice. Even if your not doing much talking and just listening. I find listening to someone else's day is a great brain break for me. I get out of my head.

  • Be flexible. Take yesterday for example. I accompanied my mom to an out of town medical appointment. Being honest, I was annoyed at the upset to my schedule. But I sucked it up because I felt that I needed to be there. I brought some of my work with me and did what I could. I had to make do with the situation that I was in.

What do you do to help yourself remain calm, when life gets overwhelming and busier than usual?

Song of the Day: Drastic Fantastic - KT Tunstall Saving My Face - KT Tunstall, Drastic Fantastic, 2007, The copyright in this sound recording is owned by Jaydone Ltd trading as Relentless Records under exclusive licence to Virgin Records Ltd. Click here to watch the video of Saving My Face. (Links may not work in all countries.)

Till next time,