I'm writing and posting this 1 day before World Day For Prevention of Abuse and Violence Against Children, which is November 19th. Just something for anyone to think about, if they want to attend any last minute events going on in their own community. I won't be doing anything in my community because I will be out of town for the day.
I've written about this before and I really feel that there is no difference between spanking, hitting, whipping, whatever you want to call it. Whether you discipline your child through physical abuse or verbal abuse. No one, man, woman or child should be putting their hands on anyone else, to hurt them in any form.
Verbal abuse is just as bad, if not worse (depending on the individual) because of the long term affect that those words can have on a person. Almost everything negative that is said or done to us in our childhood, most of us can remember. The day, the time, the reason given to us. If we always have the memory of the bad times, how can that not shape the people we are becoming? The happy memories, the good memories are sometimes the ones that are more difficult to remember. I don't know why this is.
Thankfully or maybe not, many parents wait until they get behind closed doors, you rarely ever see kids getting spanked or hit in public anymore. When I was growing up it was the norm to see a kid get swatted in the parking lot or right in the supermarket. Although there was always the other side parents being so passive and afraid of being embarrassed that they let their kids do or have whatever they wanted.
The statement that scares me the most. 'What happens in this house stays in this house.' That has to be one of the most ignorant statements that I have ever heard in my life. As far as I'm concerned, and many of you may disagree, that is how abuse of any kind, towards any age group is allowed to continue.
Now if your blessed enough to not suffer any kind of abuse that statement won't mean much except, "Don't tell people that mom dyes her hair". Or "Don't tell people that dad watches television in his underwear".
To kids who are being abused, that could mean:
- Don't tell anyone that you are being sexually abused by your brother.
- Don't tell people that you mom leaves you and your siblings on your own for days at a time without food, heat, running water or clean clothes.
- Don't tell the teacher that your dad beats you almost everyday, leaving marks and scars.
- Don't tell anyone that the trusted religious leader has been abusing you and several other kids for months.
- Don't tell is BS.
The statement 'What happens in this house, stays in this house' needs to go the way of the dinosaurs. Pure ignorance as far as I'm concerned.
Would you or could you do anything if you saw a child being abused in public or in your family?
Song of the Day: 'No Son of Mine' - Genesis, Turn It On Again - The Hits (The Tour Edition) [Remastered], 2007, Atlantic Recording Corporation/Rhino Entertainment Company, a Warner Music Group Company. Click here to see a live video of 'No Son of Mine'. (Links may not work in all countries.)
Till next time,