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I'm having "One Of Dem Days". Remember that song by Monica? Her first album Miss Thang was pretty good. You may or may not, depending on your age. I haven't thought about that song for years, until I was thinking about the title for today's blog.

Goose Butt

So yeah, I'm feeling kind of blah. Doing too much thinking about life, business, my mom, my future. And it's overwhelming me, but I will get through this. I'm taking time for myself and trying to be a better sister and friend. Although I don't think I'm doing a good job in those aspects. I'm a loner by nature, so it's a task no matter how much I love and care for a person, to be social sometimes.

~Work Breaks. This means taking a break when I need to. I've been taking most Saturday's off, for the last month or so and I kind of like it. The guilt of not working, is slowly going away.

~Walking. If I need to take a walk in the middle of the day to clear my mind, I do it. Exercise in any form is always good!

~Bedtime. Continuing to go to be in bed by 10 p.m. at the latest. This also means no social media, except listening to a podcast or audiobook, to lull me to sleep. It's a bad habit that I'm still on the fence about. Should I use it to lull me to sleep or should I fall asleep in silence?

~Baths. I'm back to taking baths in the evening. Partly because it's a great way to relax before bed and because I've had some high pain days, in the last week, from the fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis.

~Crying. When the tears want to come, I let them. I'm not a cryer in general, but since my mom died things have changed.

~Relationships. Just checking in with friends & family, with a simple text or message. If I can't call them up or see them in person. I'm working on this this.

~Positivity. Lastly, positive thoughts and words, to myself. No matter I rotten I may be feeling. I'm still not 100% convinced that it works but I'll continue to do this, in the hope that it will come to fruition.

I kind of forgot about that light thingy, for S.A.D, I was supposed to buy. I'll look into that today.

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Till next time,


No I'm not pregnant, nor have I been to a baby shower in a long time. I'm also not talking about baby showers in general. The ones that your friends/family throw you.

I'm talking about baby showers held by the new grandma. Not a problem if that's THE baby shower. In bad taste if it's a gift-grab baby shower. Which I think a lot of them are.

Example: New mom-to-be lives in another city. Grandma-to-be throws a baby shower & invites her friends. Mom-to-be is not in contact with most or all of invitees (grandmas friends). Mom-to-be doesn't come down for shower but attends the shower via skype. As far as everyone knows, nothing was preventing the mom-to-be from attending. Yes, skype. At least get your ass down & accept your gifts in person.

I'm not talking about your mothers friends with whom you have a relationship with. That's different.

Why on earth would I expect gifts or a baby shower from people who are not a part of my life? Most of whom I never speak to. I personally would feel embarrassed to accept these gifts, whether I needed them or not. But that's just me.

I can't stop people from throwing these gift grabs but I sure won't be attending them or sending a gift. And no, I'm not miserable or jealous, I just don't like being used.

Is this new? Has this always been going on? I think it's tacky? Your thoughts?

Song of the Day:No Going Back - Memoirs No Going Back, Rox, Memoirs, 2010, Rough Trade. Click here to see No Going Back. (Links may not work in all countries.)

Till next time,