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Update on Ohio kidnapping case: 2 of the brothers were cleared and no charges will be laid against them.

Warning: Some NOT child friendly language is used in this post.

  • My middle back has been killing me since last weekend. I'm not thrilled about it at all. I don't remember doing anything extreme, but I assume that doesn't mean that I couldn't have pulled a muscle? Having a career where you sit most of the time is great until sitting most of the time is agony. Gentle exercise, stretching and a heating pad are my good friends right now. Thank goodness the weather is cooling down a little, for the remainder of the week. Otherwise I'd be in a pile of sweat because I use my heating pad no matter what the temperature. The pain relief over-rides, the over-heated body any day.

-Trying to be thankful that I have a heating pad, some people don't. Trying to be thankful that I can feel my back, again some people can't. With all of the thankfulness, daily pain still sucks ass.

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Love the Spring flowers!
  • I just had to comment on the case of the three women and child in the Ohio abduction. It's so scary to wonder how many people, who are kidnapped are within 20 km of their abduction. Their families and the public may assume that they are dead, across the country, or on another continent all together.

-The news reports coming out that neighbours saw and heard strange things but did nothing, is mind-boggling. Allegedly, a woman is naked and being led around on a chain and you do nothing? If the police don't come, I would stand out where I saw the incident and keep calling until they come or came back again. I'm pretty sure you have the right to find out what the police found or didn't as a citizen. Don't quote me because I'm sure different countries have different laws that vary by province/state. I wouldn't bust in myself, because I don't want to get shot and I'm a woman going into an unknown situation, by myself. But to just say, "well I called and now it's the police's problem". What the hell is that? Does it sound judgmental? It is.

-We have a responsibility as members of a community to keep doing, until nothing else can be done. It also proves once again to me, that woman in general in any society have little worth. It galls me that many people still have that 1950's mentality of, I'm not getting involved in a seemingly domestic situation. What ever happened to standing up and being there for your fellow human being? I wonder what the women think, knowing that people saw them, possibly heard them and did nothing?

-Link to 1 of many press stories, http://usnews.nbcnews.com

-I don't know what to say about these woman and their future because I've thankfully never been in their situation. I just pray that they can have some semblance of normalcy, peace and contentment for the remainder of their lives.

-Nasty coming: All 3 of those brothers and anyone else who had knowledge of the crimes, can sit on satan's dick and ride it to hell (thanks Crissle). I don't necessarily believe in the devil/hell concept but I will admit that it makes me feel better to imagine that scenario. Nasty over.  I try to be forgiving but when it comes to sexual assault, especially when children are violated, I just have a hard time. I guess I'll never be completely altruistic. Oh well, that's my burden to carry.

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Till next time,

Nadia

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NICKELS: a tale of dissociation by author Christine Stark, takes us through the life of Little Miss So and So, a child living through horrendous physical & sexual abuse at the hands of her father. While her mother, the one parent most are able to count on, turns the other cheek with full knowledge of what her husband is doing to their child.

NICKELS also guides us through Little Miss So and So's development and discovery of her sexuality & the homophobia that comes along with it. We see what Little Miss So and So needs to do, to cope with the life she's been born into.

  • Friendships that never have a chance to develop, for fear of discovery of Little Miss So and So's home life.
  • The lack of trust that has been stolen from her because of the dysfunctional relationship between Little Miss So and So and her parents.

The one person who has loved Little Miss So and So, unconditionally, but from afar, is her Aboriginal grandmother. Whom I suspect knows something is not right, but is waiting for her granddaughter to tell her what is wrong. One of my favourite lines that always ends their phone conversations is, "You are the cream in my coffee too granddaughter." One of the few soft spots in the book.

This is the first time that I've read a novel in the form of several prose poems. It took me until Age 10 (the novel follows main character, Little Miss So and So by age) before I could get into a regular, reading rhythm. Until Age 10 it took me 3 times as long as it normally would, to finish a page. Eventually I found myself able to visually add the punctuation where they "normally" would be in a traditionally written novel. Therefore making it easier on myself to follow the flow of the book.

This work of fiction allows the readers to get a glimpse of the ramifications of what can and does occur to people who are sexually abused.

  • Mental health issues that are more common then not. In the case of Little Miss So and So, dissociation.
  • The lifelong issues with trust. Even with the therapy there is often a war with one's self, to not fall back into feelings of worthlessness, or not being good enough.
  • Establishing relationships as an adult are often something that is continually worked on, throughout life.
  • Not falling into different kinds of abusive relationships because that is what the abused is use to and or feels that this is all that they are worth.

I didn't find NICKELS: A Tale of Dissociation overly disturbing because I know that this is a very unfortunate, but very real part of every society around the world. An issue that we as a society should not be afraid to address. For those who are sensitive to the subject of sexual abuse/homophobia this novel may be hard to get through, but it's well worth it in the end. Christine Stark has a writing style that will make you feel as though you embody the spirit of her characters. For me, I was able to anticipate Little Miss So and So's thoughts and actions towards the end of novel. Not in a predictable way, because the writing has been done before, but because at times I felt that I was Little Miss So and So. Before I started to read this book, I knew what the subject matter was, so I didn't let the turmoil of the character follow me into my life, when I put the book down.

I give NICKELS: a tale of dissociation 4/5.

( I was compensated for this book review, but if I didn't like it, I would have said so. Links may not work in all countries.)

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Till next time,

Nadia